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Top 5 Tips for Navigating the Dating Scene
Dating has become complicated, or rather, our society has made it everything but simple. From experience, dating is hard. We live in a netflix and chill culture with no strings attatched, removed feelings, and horrible standards. No wonder the dating scene is tough. Times have changed, and it seems that the rules for dating have also. Often the thought of dating is scary because everyone has a different meaning of what dating means to them. Whether you're living your best single life and chillin' or ready to jump back into the dating scene, here are 5 tips to help you ease back into the dating game.
1.Know who you are
It's important to know who you are, and be a complete person. Know what you want out of life, and have a plan to go after it. So many people don't know who they are or what they want, and rely on someone else to complete them. This is your time to be 100% you with no apologies. When you know who you are, and you genuinely love yourself inside and out, you're more likely to attract the right person that compliments you. Someone who is going to appreciate everything about you that someone else took for granted. Even if you're not sure who you are, or who you want to be, take steps to figure it out. The worst thing you could do, is not be 100% yourself, and as a result attract the wrong type of mate into your life.
2. Be open minded
So many times we have this plan or idea of the type of person we want. We've prayed about it, thought about it, and played it out numerous times in our mind. That's great, but don't limit yourself. As a result, we often block or limit our blessings when dating. Stop being so close minded and just go with your gut. If someone is giving you butterfly's, you can't stop thinking about them, and your gut keeps telling you to give them a chance, GIVE THEM A CHANCE. Be open to getting to know someone else. You never know who your soulmate may be.
3. Be honest and upfront
Many times you already know what you want out of a situaton or person. However, it's often not revealed until it's too late. So make sure when you're getting to know someone, you make them aware of your intentions and what your utimate goal for is in dating. If it's for a hookup or marriage, just be honest. You owe it to the other person to be honest and not waste their time. Also, in being honest and upfront, it'll save you time and heartache later on down the road.
4. Stick to your standards
If you're anything like us, you've thought quite a bit on the standards you'll have in your next/current relationship. It's so important to think about the fundamental things you need from your purpose mate. These are traits that will lay the foundation for your relationship. Be sure to stick to them and not give up your deal breakers. Know the difference between what you need for a healthy relationship and unreleasitc things. If you can't bring what you're asking to the table, you're probably asking for too much. However, if you can bring what you're asking to the table and then some, you're being very reasonable. Don't settle. Anyone that wants to be with you will rise to meet your standards.
5. Don't stress, have fun!
Have fun! Don't stress yourself out in the beginning with the zillions of thoughts that typically run through your mind. Enjoy their company, get to know them on a friend level. The most important thing to remember when dating is to have fun. If you can have fun with the person, you enjoy their company, and their vibe is in line with yours, that's a good indicator on wether to continue dating the person. The worst thing you could do to yourself is put yourself in a dating situtaion that's stressful and not fun. So stop the overthinking and just go with the flow.