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Are You Living or Existing?

Existing and Living are two totally different things.  

When you exist, you just go from day to day, taking for granted the many blessings that God has given you.  You put off your dreams, hopes and passions and keep telling yourself that "I have time" , "I'll do that next year" or " I can't do it."  You put self doubt in your life and you chicken out of becoming the person you've always dreamed of being.  You allow people who don't matter to influence you and bring you down.  You go from day to day doing the same thing all because you're afraid of taking a chance and stepping out on faith.  When you exist, you accept a mediocre life because that's what you've talked yourself into doing.  

It's ok to exist but why exist when you can LIVE?

Living is different. 

Living is when you realize your potential and use it, every ounce of it.  You take chances, you step out on faith and you work toward every dream, passion and hope you've ever had.  You don't put things off, instead you go after what you want, whether it's traveling, a job, continuing your education, love or whatever else your heart desires.  You cherish those who love you and let go of the ones who threaten your peace.  You understand how precious life is and you allow yourself to be happy and to do things you enjoy.  Realize that you have to live your life for YOU because you don't get any do overs, no second chances or any time outs.

Life is what you make it.

We each have fears and things we're afraid of, we're all human. We allow fear to rule our lives and hold us captive from reaching our full potential.  The thing is, we're often our own biggest critic and allow everything we've ever wanted and prayed for to be a dream. Everything you've  ever wanted is on the other side of fear. You have to make a decision that you are going to create a life you love to live. Make a bucket list and do everything on it, no matter what, even if you have to do it solo.  Whatever you have to do to live for you, do it! If you want to travel more, book it, even if you can't find someone to go with you, still go.  You'll miss out on so many chances and opportunities waiting on others.  Decide what you want to do, write it down, manifest it and make it a reality. Stop saying what you can't do and start telling yourself what you're going to do.

To LIVE and not just exist... You only get one life and one chance to be the best version of yourself. Life is hard and this world will have you believe that you can only acheive mediocrity. That you're doing well if you're "making it" day by day. Many people live to work instead of working to live. Don't allow an institution that would replace you tomorrow to run you in the ground. Live your life, have fun, smile, laugh, try new things, make new friends, travel more, do something spontaneous or whatever your mind can fathom.

Live a life of "oh well's" instead of "I wish I hads." 

 STOP putting off people and your dreams. Don't put yourself on the back burner, put yourself first and do what your heart desires and what makes you happy.  Wake up everyday and do something that puts you one step closer to doing and being who you want to be in life.  You won't get their over night but if you start today, you'll be closer than you were yesterday. 

Stop existing and start LIVING!


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