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Detecting Toxic People!

You are the most important person in your life. You owe it to yourself to live your best life at every oppurtunity you get. Life is short. As you grow and elevate yourself, you have to realize that everyone can't go with you or be around you. It doesn't matter how long you've known a person, that doesn't equate to loyalty or friendship. Toxic people come in all forms such as family members, "friends," co-workers, old flames, associates, business partners, and etc.

It's like they say. If you hang around five bums, you'll be the sixth bums. If you hang around 5 go-getters, you'll be the sixth. It's so true, you are who you hang out with. 

It's so important to evaluate those around us. So many times, we're not reaching our full potential because we don't have the right foundation or support system in place.

Toxic people are harmful to our wellbeing mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically. They have a way of sucking all of the energy and happiness out of people, situations, and those around us. If you have to continually second guess someone, it may be time to evluate if they are toxic to your life.

Toxic people come in many different forms. If someone is sucking the energy out of you with their actions, they're toxic. If when you talk to them, you don't have energy, you feel tired or fatigued, and you feel as if the conversation was one sided, that can be a sign of someone who is toxic for you. If your relationship is one-sided, they don't inquire how you're doing, ask about what's occuring with you or support you in what you're doing, and you support them, they're toxic to you. If they attempt to one up you and make you feel small, like you're not good enough or not accomplisehd, that's toxic.

And we could go on and on. But at the end of the day, in the back of your mind, you know if someone is doing you wrong and treating you incorrectly. If someone makes you feel inferior and small, and you support, encourage and inspire them, that is a person you don't need.

So many times, we equate how long we've known someone to their loyalty and their friendship, and that's just not a good measure of good, genuine people. It's so important to look at the people in your life. If they aren't adding to your life, supporting you, and holding you accountable, that's not a person you need. It's not personal, it's just life.

You deserve to be happy and to flourish. However, in order to do that, you owe it to yourself to not have negative, toxic people in your life!


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